Dear Men Of The World,
Today I sat with your sister while she mourned you.
I held her hand and stroked her hair as she cried at the loss of you.
I listened to her talk about how unhappy you had become in the past years, how she implored you to seek help and you just shook your head.
She told me how you had been battling your way through, dragging your feet and how you seemed to be growing unsure of the world and your place in it.
She told me everything in your life was fine, but you were not fine.
I cried with her when she wondered what else she could have done for you and questioned how she would move forward from here – the realisation that things would never, ever be the same.
She told me how you shunned the thought of counselling and waved off the idea of any medication and how she felt helpless as she saw the signs of your illness but you refused to acknowledge it.
Today I sat with your sister as she faced the world without you in it after you took your own life.
Dear Men Of The World
Times have changed. A stoic allegiance to old school bravado is becoming more and more dangerous in our society as men face brand new challenges with the same old mind set.
Please know, you don’t need to carry the weight of the world on your own when there are so many others willing to share their strength to lighten your load.
Mental illness does not discriminate. It does not know gender or age or status.
It is not a straight forward response to a bad situation
or an emotion that can be changed
or a mood that can be altered,
Its does not only seek out and prey on the weak and feeble and you don’t become weak and feeble because of it.
It takes courage to say that you are battling something that you cant explain,
It takes courage to admit you are exhausted from pretending to be stronger than you feel,
It takes courage to say that you are overwhelmed and It takes courage to acknowledge your right to live when you’re tired and no longer feel worthy.
Depression is relentless.
It is an illness and it requires treatment in some form and you need to start by acknowledging that it is not normal to live somewhere so dark.
As you could not ignore a cancer, growing inside you, you cannot ignore the fog that is settling in.
If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.
If you cannot put an explanation on your adversity, that does not make it irrelevant or non existent. Your brain is committing an act of sabotage and that is a very real battle to face and a battle that can not be won on your own.
If you are fighting, every step of the way and you feel trapped and your burdens have become too heavy to bear – I beg you; find a voice.
There are many out there. You may think that no one will understand you, but you have no idea of the wars that are being waged and the demons that have been conquered.
Use the resources available to you and acknowledge your right to live.
Acknowledge those around you and fight on, a little longer.
These feelings, these thoughts, this hopelessness – its not forever.
Break new ground, forge ahead, teach others that its OK not to be OK and become a voice for someone else.
Dear Men Of The World,
We need you.
Please don’t give up on us. Ask for help and I promise, your calls will not go unanswered.